{"id":8717261,"date":"2023-01-16T02:30:36","date_gmt":"2023-01-16T10:30:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/?p=8717261&#038;preview=true&#038;preview_id=8717261"},"modified":"2023-01-16T10:34:23","modified_gmt":"2023-01-16T18:34:23","slug":"ask-amy-husbands-bizarre-behavior","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/16\/ask-amy-husbands-bizarre-behavior\/","title":{"rendered":"Ask Amy: My husband&#8217;s behavior has become strange, and I&#8217;m scared"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Dear Amy:<\/strong> I believe that my 45-year-old husband is having a midlife crisis, abusing drugs, cheating &#8212; or possibly all three.<\/p>\n<p>We have been married for 15 years.<\/p>\n<p>He has done meth, weed and huffing, which devastated me. He begged me not to divorce him. I stuck by his side, and he seemed to improve.<\/p>\n<p>Lately, however, he has displayed erratic behavior, control, anger, paranoia, sleeping issues, anxiety and ADHD tendencies.<\/p>\n<p>He has installed cameras on the front and back of our house &#8212; and much more. He also is seeking a second part-time job for the weekends, so he doesn&#8217;t have to see me at all.<\/p>\n<p>I really am beside myself with what to do.<\/p>\n<p><aside class=\"related left\"><h2 class=\"widget-title\" data-curated-ids=\"\" data-relation-type=\"automatic-primary-tag\">Related Articles<\/h2><ul><li>\n\n<div class=\"entry-section\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/advice\/\">Advice | <\/a><\/div>\t\t\t<a class=\"article-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/17\/ask-amy-trainer-gets-clients-pregnant\/\" title=\"Ask Amy: I&#8217;m young and hot, and I just got two of my older clients pregnant\">\n\t\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"dfm-title metered\">\n\t\t\tAsk Amy: I&#8217;m young and hot, and I just got two of my older clients pregnant\t\t<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\n<\/li><li>\n\n<div class=\"entry-section\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/advice\/\">Advice | <\/a><\/div>\t\t\t<a class=\"article-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/15\/ask-amy-my-wife-forces-me-to-leave-the-house\/\" title=\"Ask Amy: My wife forces me to leave the house. Is this how a normal marriage works?\">\n\t\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"dfm-title metered\">\n\t\t\tAsk Amy: My wife forces me to leave the house. Is this how a normal marriage works?\t\t<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\n<\/li><li>\n\n<div class=\"entry-section\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/advice\/\">Advice | <\/a><\/div>\t\t\t<a class=\"article-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/14\/ask-amy-these-teens-are-lost\/\" title=\"Ask Amy: These teens are lost, and their parents don&#8217;t want to deal with it\">\n\t\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"dfm-title metered\">\n\t\t\tAsk Amy: These teens are lost, and their parents don&#8217;t want to deal with it\t\t<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\n<\/li><li>\n\n<div class=\"entry-section\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/advice\/\">Advice | <\/a><\/div>\t\t\t<a class=\"article-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/13\/ask-amy-boss-berated-me-over-sick-kids\/\" title=\"Ask Amy: My boss berated me because my kids got sent home from school\">\n\t\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"dfm-title metered\">\n\t\t\tAsk Amy: My boss berated me because my kids got sent home from school\t\t<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\n<\/li><li>\n\n<div class=\"entry-section\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/advice\/\">Advice | <\/a><\/div>\t\t\t<a class=\"article-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/12\/ask-amy-mom-thinks-my-job-will-kill-me\/\" title=\"Ask Amy: My mother thinks my job is literally going to kill me, and she won&#8217;t let it alone\">\n\t\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"dfm-title metered\">\n\t\t\tAsk Amy: My mother thinks my job is literally going to kill me, and she won&#8217;t let it alone\t\t<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\n<\/li><\/ul><\/aside>I want to go talk to his mom, but feel that may be a bad idea, because, although I know she loves me, this is her son.<\/p>\n<p>I lately fear a bit for my life. I&#8217;m scared.\u00a0I have brought up divorce two times and let&#8217;s say it didn&#8217;t go well. He continues to call me horrible, disrespectful and disgusting names.<\/p>\n<p>He wouldn&#8217;t be where he is without me, financially and otherwise.<\/p>\n<p>I feel disrespected and very hurt.<\/p>\n<p>Does he need counseling?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right\"><em>Hopeless and Tired Wife<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Dear Hopeless:<\/strong> It sounds as if your husband needs rehab. And you need to leave this relationship safely.<\/p>\n<p>Most people understand that some drugs can make users paranoid. Some of those same drugs can actually cause psychosis. According to a study published by the National Institutes of Health, &#8220;The representative drugs that can cause psychosis are amphetamine, scopolamine, ketamine, phencyclidine (PCP), and LSD.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Or your husband is abusive, controlling and increasingly paranoid without the use of drugs.<\/p>\n<p>At the risk of alarming you, I must at least alert you to the need to strategize about how to leave this relationship safely. Change all of the passwords on your phone and computers. You can use a prepaid phone (or a friend&#8217;s) to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233), or check thehotline.org from a safe computer. A counselor can talk to you about developing a safety plan.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s vital for you to talk this through with supportive friends or family members.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t think it&#8217;s necessarily wise for you to discuss this with your mother-in-law, however. She may sincerely love you, but she may also pressure you to stay in an unsafe situation for her son&#8217;s sake.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dear Amy:<\/strong> My son got married seven months ago. It was their decision to have only immediate family attend (eight total guests).<\/p>\n<p>They expected no gifts or acknowledgment from other family or friends.<\/p>\n<p>I, however, have had a difficult time understanding why two of my three siblings have not wished them well with even a card.<\/p>\n<p>They know the wedding took place and that it was a very small affair. And yet this was their nephew and godson.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve thought about bringing this up to them, letting them know how much this hurt me. And yet to what gain, since an acknowledgment now would be forced?<\/p>\n<p>I thought as time went on, I would get over it, and yet obviously I haven&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>What&#8217;s your advice?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right\"><em>Mother of the Groom<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Dear Mother:<\/strong> Your siblings might have congratulated the couple in person, via phone, or through a social media posting or message, or a holiday card. Are you certain that they have done none of these things?<\/p>\n<p>Because this continues to weigh heavily on you, you should ask your siblings about it. Tell them, &#8220;I know the wedding was very small and private, but I hope you&#8217;ve taken the opportunity to congratulate them. I have to admit, this has been weighing on my mind.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And after this prompting, you should absolutely let it go.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dear Amy:<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mercurynews.com\/2022\/12\/28\/ask-amy-my-family-wont-tell-me-where-they-live\/\">&#8220;Without Family&#8221; told of marrying a Marine<\/a> when she was a teenager, moving away, and having no contact with her family for many years.<\/p>\n<p>As a woman who also married a Marine, I moved 3,000 miles away the day after my wedding.<\/p>\n<p>This woman&#8217;s disengagement is beyond my comprehension. There are many ways to stay in touch.<\/p>\n<p>I believe you did a great job responding, but for the sake of young people considering a life associated with the military, this is <em>not<\/em> the cost associated with a career devoted to serving one&#8217;s country.<\/p>\n<p>We all have choices. Marines live by the motto Semper Fidelis &#8212; &#8220;always faithful.&#8221; This goes beyond the Marine Corps, especially for spouses.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right\"><em>Joyfully Retired and Still Connected<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Dear Still Connected:<\/strong> Perfectly put. Thank you.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"related left\"><h2 class=\"widget-title\" data-curated-ids=\"\" data-relation-type=\"automatic-primary-section\">Related Articles<\/h2><ul><li>\n\n<div class=\"entry-section\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/advice\/\">Advice | <\/a><\/div>\t\t\t<a class=\"article-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/17\/ask-amy-trainer-gets-clients-pregnant\/\" title=\"Ask Amy: I&#8217;m young and hot, and I just got two of my older clients pregnant\">\n\t\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"dfm-title metered\">\n\t\t\tAsk Amy: I&#8217;m young and hot, and I just got two of my older clients pregnant\t\t<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\n<\/li><li>\n\n<div class=\"entry-section\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/advice\/\">Advice | <\/a><\/div>\t\t\t<a class=\"article-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/17\/harriette-cole-husband-got-stupid-drunk\/\" title=\"Harriette Cole: My husband can&#8217;t remember what he did on New Year&#8217;s Eve, and I can&#8217;t forget\">\n\t\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"dfm-title metered\">\n\t\t\tHarriette Cole: My husband can&#8217;t remember what he did on New Year&#8217;s Eve, and I can&#8217;t forget\t\t<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\n<\/li><li>\n\n<div class=\"entry-section\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/advice\/\">Advice | <\/a><\/div>\t\t\t<a class=\"article-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/17\/miss-manners-shamed-for-cutting-in-grocery-line\/\" title=\"Miss Manners: These two moms tried to shame me for cutting in the supermarket line\">\n\t\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"dfm-title metered\">\n\t\t\tMiss Manners: These two moms tried to shame me for cutting in the supermarket line\t\t<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\n<\/li><li>\n\n<div class=\"entry-section\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/advice\/\">Advice | <\/a><\/div>\t\t\t<a class=\"article-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/17\/dear-abby-i-kept-this-secret-for-30-years\/\" title=\"Dear Abby: I kept this secret for 30 years, and now I&#8217;m devastated by the outcome\">\n\t\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"dfm-title metered\">\n\t\t\tDear Abby: I kept this secret for 30 years, and now I&#8217;m devastated by the outcome\t\t<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\n<\/li><li>\n\n<div class=\"entry-section\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/advice\/\">Advice | <\/a><\/div>\t\t\t<a class=\"article-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/16\/travel-troubleshooter-after-a-traumatic-nightmare-on-amtrak-can-i-get-a-refund\/\" title=\"Travel Troubleshooter: After a \u2018traumatic nightmare\u2019 on Amtrak, can I get a refund?\">\n\t\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"dfm-title metered\">\n\t\t\tTravel Troubleshooter: After a \u2018traumatic nightmare\u2019 on Amtrak, can I get a refund?\t\t<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\n<\/li><\/ul><\/aside>\n<p><em>You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. 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