{"id":8717247,"date":"2023-01-16T01:00:59","date_gmt":"2023-01-16T09:00:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/?p=8717247&preview=true&preview_id=8717247"},"modified":"2023-01-16T01:01:16","modified_gmt":"2023-01-16T09:01:16","slug":"dear-abby-i-dont-want-him-to-send-flowers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eastbaytimes.com\/2023\/01\/16\/dear-abby-i-dont-want-him-to-send-flowers\/","title":{"rendered":"Dear Abby: It makes me queasy when my boyfriend sends roses to my office for no reason"},"content":{"rendered":"

DEAR ABBY:<\/strong> This may seem strange to complain about because most people would love to get flowers. My boyfriend of three years sends a dozen red roses every couple of months to my workplace. It’s not related to a birthday or anniversary. It’s “just because.”<\/p>\n

It would be fine if they were sent to our home, but sending them to my workplace makes it seem like he wants to send a message. It feels controlling somehow. I feel like a spectacle and uncomfortable. I don’t want to say anything to him and hurt his feelings when he’s trying to be nice, but I just want it to stop.<\/p>\n

He thinks my late husband gave me flowers all the time because when we moved, I had 30 vases or more. But most of them were from bouquets I received after his death. Plus, when my late husband gave me flowers, it was usually after he did something hurtful. So yes, I do have a negative connotation about flowers.<\/p>\n

But still, saying something to him about stopping makes me as queasy as actually getting the flowers. Please help.<\/p>\n

OVER-BLOSSOMED IN THE WEST<\/em><\/p>\n